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Back to the frozen North

December 22nd, 2008 by judytalks

I moved from Minneapolis, MN. to Mesa AZ. in Oct. 2002. For 6 Christmases, I entertained family members who loved coming to the Valley of the Sun to swim, sightsee in summer clothes or light jackets and not have to shovel snow to get out of the driveway.
This year we flew to the Twin Cities for the Holidays. We were warned that we might be flying into a blizzard, or an ice storm, it would be impossible to land, we’d be stuck in the middle of nowhere, and other interesting possibilities. The trip was uneventful and we landed just fine. But in 6 years, you forget the biting cold, the wind that sucks the breath out of you, and the leg and arm shaking movements you once did automatically to ward off the cold.
Weather conditions are a small matter compared to the fun and excitement of spending Christmas with family in their homes. Grandchildren are relaxed and love to show you their rooms, toys, books, and hamsters. Moms cook best in their own kitchens, and grandparents shine when they can sit comfortably in the living room with kids, cats, dogs, cookies, and storybooks on their laps.
The Holidays are a time for memories – good and bad. Remembering with others who share the same joys and sorrows with you help eneryone stay connected.
Even though I haven’t acclimated to the cold and wind, I wouldn’t miss this Christmas for the world.
Stay warm and well.

Twas the Week Before Christmas

December 19th, 2008 by judytalks

I have friends who finish all their shopping by Thanksgiving, write cards, plan menus and parties early in December and seem to sail through the Holidays.
I’m not one of those people. Last minute rushes seem more “festive” to me. We’re leaving tomorrow for Minnesota amidst forecasts of blizzards and very cold weather.
I’ve talked recently about grief and the Holidays and want to touch base on that subject. Anyone who has faced celebrations following the loss of a loved one knows how painful and difficult it is. Seek solace and comfort from friends and family members,s even if they don’t understand and say the wrong things. they truly care about you. Please make a point to celebrate at least one tradition that brings you joy and a sense of continuity in your life.
The wonder of Christmas belongs to wide-eyed children who refuse to believe that reindeer can’t fly. Science tells us that bumblebees can’t either. I leave it up to you!
While in the Twin Cities, I will meet with my editor to discuss the manuscript for my next book. The subject is about how the death of a parent affects children, and I’m anxious to get it polished and out to the public. We don’t deal well in our society with the reality of loss. As an educator, I hope to make some changes in our thinking.
Try to spend time this season with kids. They really know how to celebrate.
I wish everyone a joyous Holiday.

Grief and the Holidays

December 17th, 2008 by judytalks

The Holidays are approaching and your best friend is in mourning. Or perhaps you are. No amount of comfort seems adequate, and the very idea of celebrating is diminished by the sense of sadness over your loss.
How can you help yourself, or someone else?
Staying close, listening, and choosing the traditions that mean the most are a good beginning.
I lost my husband nearly 18 years ago. He went into the hospital the Friday after Thanksgiving and died January 8, 1991. Those five and a half weeks were filled with crises that left him paralyzed and brain damaged. When he died, my family and I were mentally and emotionally devastated.
The sadness of loss never goes away. We don’t “get over it”. We come to terms with it. Today we remember and continue to celebrate those things we hold dear, and remember loved ones who are gone.
Let family and friends comfort and include you. Know that you won’t feel like being joyous, but traditions can bring solace and a sense of continuity to our lives.
I write about grief, loss, and healing because they touch every life. Take heart and surround yourself with those who love and care about you.
I wish you well. Judy

December 13th, 2008 by judytalks

Season’s Greetings!  It’s a wonderful, magical time of year for giving and celebrating. Spirits are high and friends and family are planning parties and reconnecting with one another.

For those who have suffered loss during the past year, it may be difficult to celebrate. Here are some tips to make this season memorable, even though there is sadness in your heart.

Invite those close to you to your home for small get togethers, if a big party just seems too much.

Help out with food, gifts or toy distribution and bring good cheer to others less fortunate.

Start a special tradition to kick off a New Year and a New You!

Draw close to friends and family in simple ways. It’s true that the best and most memorable times cost almost zero.

Have a wonderful evening. Judy

December 11th, 2008 by judytalks

Good Morning

Today I’ll be sewing with AZ Blankets For Kids, a project I love. The need is great, and a room full of busy people is a joy, especially this time of year.

Remember friends and family members who have experienced loss during the year. That probably includes all of us, in this difficult economic time. It doesn’t cost anything to wish happiness and good cheer. Have to run. Talk to you tomorrow. Judy

Hello world!

December 10th, 2008 by judytalks

Welcome to WordPress.com.  Greetings! and Welcome to judytalks. The serious side of my writing and life work is about adversity, loss and healing. In today’s world, loss and grief is rampant. The good news is that there are solutions for handling loss and moving forward. Just for today, let me get acquainted with you. I plan to visit as many blogs as I can and learn about your interests and endeavors. Please comment and ask questions. It’s about connecting. I wish you well. Judy

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