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Renewing My Vows

July 31st, 2011 by judytalks

While on vacation recently, I took time to reevaluate my personal and business goals, the vows I made to myself about writing, grief support, and tending to a business. Though I see growth and success in general, I had to admit that some sustainable areas were wearing thin. Not enough attention to the parts I like the least.

One important element of success is tedium. Some things just have to be done every day, consistently, no whining, no procrastination . A prime example occurred while I was raising a family.

I returned to college in my early forties, telling everyone I was going to go to school until I got my degree or my medicare card-whichever came first. Years later, I have both. It was one of the highlights of my life, a time I cherish, but it was also one of the most difficult endeavors because I had four children at home and a husband with a chronic illness. It took much longer than I thought and was hampered by important responsibilities. I realized I just had to keep putting one foot in front of the other until I fulfilled my promise to myself.

What if I had dumped it? Caved in to the comments from friends “Are you STILL taking classes? What are you thinking?

My thinking was that if I reneged on my vow to myself, I would lose my self respect and the opportunity to fulfill my own dreams. And there it is. If you jeopardize your relationship to yourself, you’ll feel lost until you reclaim it. It’s said that life isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. How true.

I’m renewing my vows to myself to do what I love to do, and maintain the daily grind that’s required for a measure of success.

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Fresh Air

July 12th, 2011 by judytalks

A breath of fresh air is always welcome. It’s said to clear the head, stimulate different ideas, and open up new perspectives on difficult problems.

I’m breathing fresh air right now because I’m in the Twin Cities, enjoying family and friends and the beautiful MN. scenery.

I also have acquired a fresh approach to grief and loss issues. I’ve been writing on these subjects for several years now, volunteering as a grief facilitator, and talking with people of all ages about mourning and the healing process. As I looked over my accumulated material, gathered from my and other’s experiences, I recognized a theme.

When you begin to acknowledge and celebrate all the wonderful things about your loved one, places you’ve been, and the closeness you shared, you begin to breathe deeply again, taking in the fresh air around you. To embrace that irreplaceable time gives a boost to the healing process. Some of the sadness is replaced with joy and confidence. By putting your loved one to rest, you can rest, and clear your head for facing the future. Those treasured memories are a foundation that sustains you as you breathe new life into your world.

Wherever you are in your healing process, take a big gulp of air, clear your mind, and refresh your soul. Love never dies; people do. Survivors walk hand in hand with their treasured  keepsakes.

I wish you well,


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