How Do You Know When Grief Turns A Corner?
July 9th, 2015 by judytalksFor some grievers, it’s sudden. Out of the blue, you feel different, things look brighter, and you can breathe easier. For others, the process has been working its way upward for some time.
The fact of mourning is entirely personal. It can’t be measured by any yardstick. Its parts can’t be labeled or identified by anything you already understand. The person in mourning knows very little going in, and has very little idea of the way out.
One thing is known: The sudden impact of death is crippling, and the deep impact of pain can literally make you double over. Comfort from family and friends is just the beginning in the mourning process you face. How then do you know when grief turns a corner? How is it felt or noticed by you or others?
Someone once told me, “I could see that something had changed by the look on her face.”
Your thoughts, feelings, and decisions in the beginning set the stage for your bereavement. How can I cope, what should I do, how do I stop the pain are the most immediate concerns. But the day to day priorities change, and you can rethink and rework your personal grief process to reflect your needs.
An example may be the option of handling things alone or joining a group. Often people rule out participating in a group or a specific program, wanting to “go it alone”.
There’s a lot of information that can guide you. Make a small change, with the idea that if it doesn’t feel right, you can change back.
Information sources you may want to check out include:-
Internet: Grief resources, articles, books, programs and chat groups.
Book stores, local groups led by funeral homes, churches, community centers, or in private homes.
As always, check out credentials and formats to see what might suit you best.
My books and articles are posted on my website and are also available at Amazon.com. Click on the “buy from amazon” button, then scroll down to the “visit Amazon”s Judy Strong page”.
I wish you well,
Judy
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